Son moves out of his parents' house with his girlfriend and avoids telling his meddlesome mother what his real address is: 'Neither of us wants her to know our actual address'

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Giuliana Tiscioni • Writer
Oct 3, 2026 7:15 AM EDT

Some parents don't know when to stop meddling in their children's lives, and that's what eventually pushes them to go almost no contact. 

A young man and his girlfriend went through this. They moved into his parents' house temporarily, but since they and the mother had very different personalities and habits, things weren't working out. They decided to move into another place, so they started apartment hunting. The guy's mother was convinced she knew the place they were moving into, and they didn't bother to tell her they were actually moving to a different apartment. Oops…

The thing with these kinds of parents is that they're the ones playing the victim when their children finally set boundaries, create some space between them, and limit contact. If their children make clear that they need their life and their space, walking all over that request is only going to make them lose them. We're not talking about kids or teenagers, who do need their privacy, but still also need their parents' support and general supervision. We're talking about adults, with a stable job, a committed relationship, and the expectations of getting married. They are independent, and they need space to live their lives however they want, not how their parents like. Granted, that is a little difficult if they are living with them to save money. After all, there are not many decisions you can make when you live in someone else's house, but that's why this couple moved out. Imagine how complicated the relationship with the mother must be for none of them to want to tell her where they actually live. 

Take a look at the whole story below, and share your thoughts with us. Would you tell your parents your new address even after they had proven they don't respect boundaries? 

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  • AITA for letting my MIL believe she knows where we live when she actually has the wrong address?

    My boyfriend and I recently moved into our own apartment. We're not married yet but plan to be, so I'll call his mother MIL for simplicity.
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  • For the last four years, we rented his parents' house. They told us they'd only stay there about one month a year because they mostly
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  • lived abroad. In reality, it was usually 3+ months, and one year it was around seven. Only once did they actually stick to one month.
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  • This became exhausting, especially because MIL and we are complete opposites. We're introverts who love a quiet home; she loves
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  • people constantly coming over and thinks we're "antisocial" for preferring privacy. There were also plenty of conflicts over the years,
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  • including one I personally couldn't forgive. My boyfriend is equally exhausted by her and now wants very little contact. So we moved.
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  • While apartment hunting, MIL saw one two-bedroom apartment we applied for and immediately said, "Great! Dad and I can sleep over!"
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  • My boyfriend told her we weren't having overnight guests. This wasn't new: years before meeting me, MIL once "surprised" him by
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  • showing up unannounced at his apartment. He let her in once but told her if she ever did it again, he wouldn't open the door.
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  • MIL then went abroad and missed the rest of our apartment search. By the time she returned, we had already moved.
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    The son and his girlfriend alone in their own apartment. 

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  • She asked my boyfriend, "You got the apartment next to the school?" He replied, "Yes, it's next to a school."
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  • He never said WHICH school or confirmed it was the apartment she had previously seen.
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    The apartment they moved into.

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  • MIL has a habit of taking a few pieces of information, connecting them herself, and becoming extremely confident that her conclusion is correct instead of simply asking.
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  • So she decided we live in that apartment. We don't. Neither of us corrected her because neither of us wants her to know our actual address.
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  • Later she proudly told us she had cycled past our apartment, with this vibe of, "See, I know where you live, but I respect your privacy and don't bother you."
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  • Meanwhile, she had apparently been respectfully leaving us alone at some random stranger's apartment.
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  • We have never given her a fake address. We never told her we lived there. She took the limited information she had, put it together incorrectly, and confidently announced she knew where we lived.
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  • We just... let her believe it. Now I'm waiting for the day she realizes we never lived there and
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  • accuses us of lying. I'm also slightly amused by the possibility that she might eventually ring some poor stranger's doorbell looking for her son.
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    The mother and her son.

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  • AITH for knowingly letting her remain wrong because neither of us wants her to know our real address?
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